“All men are naturally gentle and we ought to remember that the word ‘gentlemen’ has its roots in this fact”
~ Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings & Revelations, p 551
A day after the birth of our son, my husband was lying down with Michael sleeping on his chest. Connecting to the tenderness within Michael, my husband received a huge healing from this moment. He connected to the fact that deep within him was a tender, gentle, caring and loving man that he had lost connection to and it brought up sadness for him that he had been missing this quality of being. Feeling the warmth, and fragility in Michael’s gorgeous body, he also connected to the baby boy within himself. This melted my husband and as you can see from the photo, the shields of armour dropped away and what was left was his true self – a tender, sensitive loving man. Yes you can…it is such a gorgeous photo.
My husband does look very tired but behind this, you can feel and see the loveliness in his eyes. I love this photo of the two of them together; it makes me melt – both completely surrendered and still.
Do we connect to this quality within the men we know in our lives today?
Do we connect to this quality within ourselves?
Why is it that we have a society where a man’s fragility, tenderness and sensitivity is not honoured, encouraged and respected? Why is it that we have championed the hard, tough men in our world? Do we have equality between the men and women in the world today?
I observed the men I used to work with in the workplace, and there were always derogatory comments and a derogatory tone towards women such as – which ones they would want to have sex with, which ones would be easy to get into bed and all the things they would want to do to her, and which ones wouldn’t. Which ones would be great to have a night out on the “piss” (alcohol) with and even party hard with drugs, so that they might possibly take advantage of her at the end of the night.
Why do men sexually objectify women? What is really going on for the men to be carrying on like this? It felt to me like there was a deep connection and intimacy that the men were seeking and missing in their lives; that they weren’t connecting to their innate nature, and they weren’t being met by the women in their lives. So instead they resort to an ingrained behaviour amongst other men to not deal with this hurt, or bury it.
Serge Benhayon and the Ageless Wisdom Teachings
“If women keep allowing the abuse, disrespect and or any other behaviour that is less than loving, how will men ever know how far away they are from their true nature?
The true nature of a man that woman fall in love with but rarely get to live with.”
~ Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings and Revelations, p 562.
This quote was really big for me to read at first, but so true when I pondered on it more. Women have lost their way today and do not stand up to abuse or disrespect – they are just as tough, hard and rough competing against the men in sport, in positions in the workplace and in the media.
If a woman was to connect back to her innate feminine, delicate, loving and nurturing qualities; would the men feel this and come back too? By the quality and reflection that the woman can offer to the men? What if we allowed our men to connect to this nature and they could offer healing to the women also? What if we had relationships between each other that could be based on this quality as a foundation?
I noticed that when I laughed nervously or allowed this rude banter to take place around me from the men, I realised how dishonouring it was for me to not speak up, how abusive it was for them to think they could speak about women in this way and how irresponsible it was of me to contract around the fact that men were behaving in a very disrespectful way.
When I became pregnant, the men changed in the way they were around me, respecting the space in which I moved around them, to pulling themselves up when they swore. They apologised for rude comments that would slip off the tongue and I felt a sense of respect. They would even offer to carry things for me and they behaved a lot more like gentlemen.
Something to deeply feel and appreciate that men do respond to a woman in her Stillness and power, connected to her soul and that they want to be gentlemen.
I have since then left that job and in my new role I have the men opening doors for me and appreciating my presence when I am at work. There is a joy to be at work with men who can show their sensitive and tender nature which is a lovely reflection of my relationship with myself as a woman and my connection to my true qualities.
“If a man loves his son and allows him to be just like he is on the inside,
the son will grow-up to ignite the world with love.”
~ Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings and Revelations, p 564.
There are the many roles that men choose to identify themselves with, like the provider, the father, the fixer, the investor, the intellectual, the soldier at war, the healer, the mighty, etc., etc., but once a man connects to himself in truth, he can bring such a loveliness, a gentleness that would make such a difference to how our world is today and bring this to everything he does. How different would life be if men were to let go of their tough armours and accept and admit to their sensitivities? It would be so lovely if the women would do it too.
My husband and my son are two gorgeous, sensitive, loving, men in my life that I am so appreciative of. My husband has never sexually objectified me nor has he forced himself sexually towards me. He has always respected the space for love making. When I lose myself to stress and reactions, to the energies that can come through, both my son and my husband have always brought me back, through their tenderness and sweetness. It is in the way my son talks to me and offers me a gorgeous cuddle, or the way my husband talks me through my troubles and reassures me that everything will be ok with his touch, his smile and through his eyes. This reminds me of the fact that we are all equal. We are all equally Love and through gentleness and grace, there is a true way to be.
“Femaleness is a Soul-emanated expression and therefore, it is the individualised harmonious expression in all men and in all the women.
This expression can only occur when the spirit knows it is equally both male and female and thus, surrenders to its centre, ‘where the Will of God is known,’ as the Inner-Heart.”
~ Serge Benhayon, Esoteric Teachings and Revelations, p 532.
By Leah Lavinia Pash